I’m not a lawyer. I’m not a divorce coach. So why have I become the World’s 1st Alternative Divorce Guide?
Because I am on the co-parenting journey and I want to share what I’m learning from the many experts I speak to; I want to bust some myths (like “mediation only works for divorcing parents who get on well” – actually it works for adversarial couples too), and because I was never married so I had no legal rights and HAD to learn how to ‘Break up right – please don’t fight’ (my middle child came up with that byline by the way when he was 10. Thanks for that Joe).
Why have I created The Alternative Divorce Guide?
Quite simply, to inspire and empower parents to co-parent without conflict during or after family breakup.
I take the best resources and people I can find – parenting experts, financial and debt solutions, inspirational coaches and flexible start up business opportunities – add in some non-adversarial legal and mediation experts, shared stories from parents who know how tough the journey can be and the rewards from the life changes it brings – and put them all in a Box.
Nicknamed “Divorce in a Box” – you may have read about it in the London Metro or Woman’s Weekly.
How do you know who to talk to first when facing family breakup? You don’t. So ask me. I won’t charge you. Email me and I’ll help steer you towards the people and resources you need NOW (they won’t charge for an initial conversation either. You shouldn’t have to pay to find out how someone can help you, right?) Just imagine how different your children’s lives will be if you: Have less stress, save money, and put your children’s welfare first.
Just imagine how less stressed you will be when you’ve talked to a debt solutions expert and a financial expert who can show how to create a more secure financial situation?
Imagine how much easier it will be to agree on a financial settlement if you are not spending all your money on lawyers fees, because you are talking to the people with the real expertise – like financial planners – who have no financial interest in you not coming to an agreement.
Just imagine how much easier it will be for your children to form healthy relationships in the future, if you act as solid role models of how to deal with a difficult and painful breakup without it turning into a bitter, prolonged court battle?
If you learn things from life, it only seems natural to then share them. Which is why I provide access to free resources via www.alternativedivorceguide.com.
What should happen now?
Well that’s up to you. You can give me a ring or email me, and I’ll listen to you and help guide you towards creating a solid plan of action.
Or you can buy a Divorce in a Box now (ribbon is optional) and receive booklets, a dvd of resources and videos and £100’s of vouchers to introduce you to a whole range of experts who may be more useful to you right now than a lawyer will (they can be useful too, but at the right time and be careful to choose a non-adversarial one: you can find them on this UK Experts Directory.
You are not alone in this situation, and there is much to be learned from others who are further ahead on the journey. It is never too late to arrive at a better destination if you get some help reading the map. This is a journey you don’t need to make alone.
I am your Alternative Divorce Guide
Call me on 07525 059 634 or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
I don’t charge to chat – I’m happy to listen to your situation, and then email you some useful information, resources and even connect you to some experts who can help. Those experts will also have an initial conversation at no charge, so that you can decide whether you need their help, whether you want their help, and whether you like them!
For your complimentary 15 minute phone call to help you create a map of who to talk to first, and how to stop your family breakup from becoming – or remaining – adversarial, email me to arrange a time to chat on email@example.com.
A bit more about me:
My partner ended our 10 year relationship in 2003. Our three children were aged 6, 4 and 1 at the time, and it was the most painful and traumatic experience of my life. However, as the years passed, I soon became grateful that my ex had the courage to end a relationship that was not truly feeding either of us and we now have a healthy respect for each other.
It was tough getting to where I am now, and on the way I learned that accessing the right information, support and help both legally, financially and emotionally was essential. My ex partner is a supportive co-parent, living in the same village, sharing the same values and sometimes it amazes me how we got to be in such a good place despite some very difficult times getting here. It takes courage and vision and a determination to believe in a positive future when life seems nothing but a struggle, but the joy of children is that they provide a massive incentive to make that extra effort. It is not a journey anyone needs to make alone.
In 2010 I created the UK’s first ‘Divorce Fair’ which was called the Starting Over Show, and helped steer people towards mediation and away from adversarial breakup, as well as providing information and inspiration for people starting over from redundancy and bereavement, and other life changes.
There are skilled people who can help with all aspects of Starting Over who are there to be accessed via the Divorce in a Box and the Alternative Divorce Directory. Information and Inspiration are what helped me move forward in my life. I want to make those resources available to other people through Divorce in a Box – a Travel Guide for people navigating family breakup and wanting their broken family to transform into an extended family. People who also want to save money on legal fees, reduce the stress on their children, and stay out of court.
“My mission is to help separating families to protect their kids from the toxic effects of divorce, save money and reduce the stress.”
Suzy Miller, collaborating with the Ministry of Justice in promoting stay-out-of-court divorce.
Woman & Home 2011