Father’s Relationships With Their Kids Post-Divorce Can Be Better Than Before The Split

All Dads – Read This!   I posted this image today and wrote about the ‘light at the end of the tunnel’ re. improved relationships between dads and their kids post divorce, and this lovely comment was shared (I post with his permission):   “To expand on this, I found separation to be massively empowering for me as a father. Prior to separation, parenting had primarily been my wife’s domain – this was because she was so good at it, because she had strong views...

5 Facts About Divorce

  5 things you probably didn’t know about divorce – but should:       Keep things peaceful.  Learn how at the Best Way To Split Retreat (no couples!) Click here to see more….  ...

How do women find their voice when a major life shift gives them a jolt? 

How do women find their voice when a major life shift gives them a jolt?    Some women continue with their life path reaching what they believe to be the ‘normal’ level of happiness without reaching fulfilment until that life shift happens out of the blue. Others, follow their gut instinct, become attuned to what feels like the next right move for themselves and create that shift for themselves. Some never find their voice and stay invisible, believing they are not worthy of...

Are Limiting Beliefs Preventing You From Divorcing?

There was an article written in the Telegraph about the financial implications of separating without legally doing so. It covered the legal situation that many people find themselves in by not proceeding with a divorce, even though they’d separated – some for many years. There may be many reasons why someone does not want to go through the process of divorce. Quite often it is a fear of the unknown, or not wanting to rock the boat, as it were. However, underlying the reason there is...

What To Watch Out For When Dating After Divorce

Any negative divorce will always impact our future happiness and any future relationship we truly deserve. Our past will undoubtedly be carried forward into our future unless we take time to get clear about the obstacles holding us back, that we will keep repeating again and again. Unfortunately this is the harsh reality following any nasty divorce. We may consciously think we are ready to date again when the timing is right, but subconsciously we will sabotage any new relationship as it...

How To Get your Life Back On Track After Divorce – Relationship & Dating Coach Karen Marshall

Are you training for a sprint or marathon?   PAINFUL BEGINNINGS When you are separating, going through a divorce or rebuilding your life again, you may be thinking, love will never happen again, or you really don’t want another relationship right now, because of the pain, heartache, and challenges you are working through.  If you have children, their welfare will be something else on your mind.  Let’s face it – splitting up is never going to be fun – and it may have you living one day at...

Ways To Survive The Summer Holidays When You Are A Separated Family – Part Two

  The first few months and years after separation require adjustments, but when couples move on, parents enter into new relationships.  This can mean that whereas one couple were involved before with the co-parenting, now step-parents and more become involved. Blended families bring their own challenges – and not forgetting the important role of grandparents, who may also need to be included.   Possible solutions:   Plan as early as possible. Work out a Parenting Plan as to who is to...

Ways To Survive The Summer Holidays When You Are A Separated Family – Part One

  BBC Radio Leicester Interview with Collaborative Practitioner and Family Lawyer James Belderbos     Summer – and the school summer holidays in particular – can bring stress to many families. We are familiar with the pressures that Christmas can bring with families thrown together over the festive period, but the summer holidays can also create stress and opportunities for conflict. Sadly, like Christmas, the aftermath of a family holiday can be too much to bear for some couples,...

Why Healing And Hypnotherapy Can Help With Divorce Stress

  What are the symptoms that can affect people who are going through a divorce?   Life itself is stressful enough without the added stress caused by marital breakdown. Common symptoms that I witness as a life coach and hypnotherapist often supporting people through their divorce stress, are worry and anxiety about the future (financially and emotionally) which often leads to erratic sleep patterns. When sleep is lacking it often leads to irritability, frustration, lack of energy and problems...

Collaborative Lawyers and High Profile Divorce

  I hear a lot of about collaborative lawyers and the good work they do helping couples navigate the complex process of separation and divorce.   Perhaps the collaborative model would be best for Brexit – legal advice to hand, yet ultimately, collaboration and clear communication (rather than game-playing) the order of the day?  And a lot more private too.   Several celebrity couples have gone through a collaborative divorce. Singer and performer Madonna and her former husband director...

Divorce Coaching and Better CoParenting

My biggest inspiration has been my children. They have been the most important thing in my life so far. To me children are a gift, and with that gift comes a responsibility from the person who receives them, to make sure that your children are given the best opportunities in life, so that they grow into well-adjusted, well-functioning adults. My inspiration for working with couples as a relationship coach is that I know how traumatic divorce and separation can be. I just want to help other...

Theta Healing Radio Interview with Debbie Talalay

  In this Brooklands Radio Surrey interview with Theta Healer Debbie Talalay, Debbie explains how Theta Healing is a quick and powerful way to heal the mind of subconscious blocks – and also physical problems.     She relates an incredible story about a Theta Healing client who reported that her Psoriasis disappeared overnight, and how she has helped people with Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome.     “Debbie Talalay – wow, if you haven’t been to see Debbie yet, then you...

Infidelity: Julia Keys wants us to spy on each other

  The wife of former Sky Sports presenter Richards Keys has claimed she spotted ‘telltale’ signs that he may be seducing another woman – as she wrote a book on infidelity.  A trained counsellor, she has now written a book called The Manscript, which helps readers to identify when their partner is cheating on them. I hope that as a trained counsellor, Julia Keys will offer more in her book than how to increase the level of paranoia and fear in every couple who reads the book, where one of...

Child First Campaign to prevent abusive ex-partners cross examining their victims in court

  Fantastic news – and proof that sanity does eventually (begin to) prevail in the world of Divorce and Families:  As a result of the Child First Campaign bringing the issue of survivors of domestic abuse being cross examined by their abusers in the family courts and the subsequent Guardian investigation into the issue, the Government have announced an emergency review to find the quickest way to ban abusive ex-partners from cross examining their victims. Women’s Aid say that:...

Brexit Divorce goes on and on – just like a real divorce! by Victoria Sharman

In family life, separation and divorce is traumatic and distressing. It has a negative impact on the overall health and wellbeing of those involved. Although the EU is not a ‘family’ unit, the UK’s vote to exit reflects and parallels the negative fall-out and effects of high-conflict ‘family’ separations on the individuals involved. As a divorce counsellor, Brexit fuelled my therapeutic curiosity. Personally, it brought up issues of loss of relationships and familiar connections. I became...

When Your Confidence and Until Death Do Us Part are Dancing to a Different Beat – by Dee Burrowes

  There’s something magical about family holidays like Christmas and Easter that encourage people to bring joy to others. It’s one of my absolute favourite times of the year where my family and extended family traditionally come together to give thanks. But has the reality of Christmas or Easter without the ‘perfect family’ hit home for you this year – or for someone you know and love?  Is there a husband and wife who are dancing to different tunes – out of step...

Wallowing in Misery, or Wading Through to the Other Side? By Vivienne Smith

  There are so many ways to cope with the loss of a relationship, but some of them will just leave you feeling worse.   In this interview with Transformation Coach and author of “The Single Mum’s Survival Guide“, Vivienne Smith shares a few examples or how we deal with relationship breakdown, and what better choices we can make:     Denial   You assure everyone you are fine but you realise that you are drinking too much, eating too much or laughing just a little too loudly....

Parenting through Divorce – Adriana Galimberti-Rennie

Protecting your privacy after your divorce from social media harassment: Karen Bashford

Is your Ex following you through social media and the internet? Social media is a wonderful tool for staying in contact, finding clients and suppliers, and on a social level, sharing informative and fun videos. But there is also a dark side to social media – one that as a divorcee you need to be aware of. I discovered how vulnerable I was to my horror, when my ex of 22 years used social media and my website to harass me. It is not pleasant to receive an email or comments on a blog from...

It’s not fair for the dads: interview with Adriana Galimbertie-Rennie

Interview with Chartered Counselling Psychologist Adraina Galimberti-Rennie about how dads can be considered ‘single’ by the State after separation, and not be able to afford to have an extra room for their children to come and stay with...

Is divorce the right choice? by Karen Bashford

  The Four Stages of Divorce   There are 4 stages to a divorce – the initial decision of should I or shouldn’t I?  Telling your partner… Sorting out the practicalities of a divorce… And finally the divorce itself.   Each stage has an impact on you both emotionally – and financially.  All four stages can be supported by a qualified coach to make each stage less challenging and to ensure that you make the right decisions.   First stage of divorce   What triggers the first stage...

Why do I need help when divorcing? Interview with Adriana Galimertie-Rennie

Divorce and Faith

  Life Coach Zina Arinze talks about the conflicts between Faith and Divorce, if your faith says that divorce is ‘wrong’.  How do you deal with that?     “I believe most Christians agree that marriage is supposed to be forever. But when you find yourself separated, divorced or going through the process, how do you deal with the aftermath?”     A Divorced Christian Single Mum, Zina Arinze, has struggled with this dilemma, and learned so much from the process that she now coaches...

It’s not just about talking to lawyers when divorcing……

  You are not alone:   Did you know that even though swans usually mate for life, sometimes they still ‘divorce’? Divorce & family breakup is an emotional & psychological journey, more than a legal & financial one.   What you feel will directly effect how you act: your pain, anger, fear or sense of hopelessness is all quite natural.       How do I keep myself sane through all this?   I think we all go a little crazy during big life changes like divorce & separation, so...

Weapons of War – children and divorce

  Will divorce really harm my children?   No-one wants their kids to be used as weapons in an adversarial divorce – yet so many families fall into that trap. Your children can grow up as happy as everyone else’s kids – despite the divorce.  But let’s be aware of the consequences if we get it wrong…..   Listen to Catherine’s story…..       Want to reduce the toxic effects of divorce on your kids?   Use the Alternative Divorce Guide to create your own map for navigating...

Practical tips when divorcing by a life organiser

When Getting Divorced Keep A Record Of All Your Possessions   If you’re looking for decluttering and help in the home – contact Suzy Miller Email: suzy@startingovershow.com         Divorce is often described as a bereavement. Accepting change can be difficult, coming to terms with the loss of a relationship, the home and sentimental possessions can soon fuel our emotions, resulting in aggression, bullying...

Stressed dads – fatherhood and divorce

  Susan Cowe Miller reassures new dads that there is a simple way to deal with the inevitable stress of fatherhood using Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping).   This technique would be particularly useful for dads who don’t live with their children, and where the contact is squashed into a limited amount of time – which can make the parenting experience even more stressful.     Are you a father finding parenthood difficult?   Are you new to parenthood?  Have a new baby in the...

Divorce Coaching is not the same as Counselling

  Zina Arinze of Believe and Live Again shares her views on how divorce coaching can differ from traditional counselling: “One of the things that people need to understand is that there is a difference between being a coach, being a mentor, and being a therapist or a councillor.  Now a councillor will help you to uncover what’s happened in the past.  You might have some hidden issues from your childhood. that have really formed you, and developed you, and made you who you are...

How much truth can I tell my daughter about her father?

Most separating parents ask themselves their own version of this question. The main thing to remember here is that your daughter needs all the support she can have to carry on having loving relationship with her dad. So how much you are going to tell her will depend on whether the situation between yourself and her dad affected her life directly or not. Let’s start with an easier scenario: if the happenings between the two of you were quite contained, she does not need to know the...

3 Myths that Scare Divorcing Mums

I am a child psychologist Una Archer and I help divorcing mums to do whatever they need to do so that their children feel just as loved, secure and comfortable in their own skin as before the divorce and sometimes even more so. Helping children feel safe is the most direct way of preventing and resolving any issues that the divorce can cause for them. Having had the privilege to witness the journey of a fair few mums I noticed that there are some ideas that seem to be floating in our culture...