Christmas Survival Guide for singles…..
Love Match Weekends founder and Transformational Coach Geneviève Zawada knows that Christmas is one of the hardest times to be single for a lot of people, and she spends more time coaching people during the Christmas period than any other.
Christmas can be very difficult for a lot of people especially if they will not be celebrating with family members, but as she explains to Alternative Divorce Guide Suzy Miller, there are some good things about being single at this time of year, so here are some tips from Geneviève to support you through this festive period.
“Even if you have recently been through divorce and family breakup, these tips will allow you to still enjoy Christmas and find new ways to heal – and have fun!
How to enjoy Christmas when you’re single
- Be true to yourself, if you want to go out a party then do this, but equally if you want to stay at home and be by yourself then honour your emotional state and don’t be pressurised into going somewhere you don’t want to go.
- Make sure you book in time with friends and family to not only enjoy the festive period, but also book in time for you, to just relax.
- Take the time to do things that you have had on your list all year round but not managed to do, i.e. read the book that you have been trying to read all year, visit the friends you keep promising to see, decorate or tidy up a room at home etc.
- Having a good clear out at Christmas time is very cathartic, and allows a lot of people to start the New Year afresh.
Take care of your health and ‘give back’
Having a good look at your health and lifestyle is important to keep an eye on and especially at Christmas, we are all too aware how the party season has an effect on or body, skin and energy levels. Keep yourself in check so you can make the most of this season and try not to over indulge on a too regular basis.
Keep Healthy and fit, especially if the weather is not so good and the nights seem longer, a lot of us don’t feel the urge to exercise and would prefer a comfy sofa to a treadmill. Make the extra effort and you will be glad you did, as feeling good makes you look good and give off those “all important positive signals” for all areas in your life!
Try something different, challenge yourself to do something you wouldn’t normally do. Now I am not inciting anything illegal or immoral just do something for fun or that makes you feel good, that you haven’t done before or haven’t done for a long time. We all have something on our list we want to try, from Bungee jumping to volunteering in a soup kitchen over the Christmas period.
Don’t just throw out your unwanted things, think about those that may benefit from them. It is always rewarding to give something back and help those that are not as fortunate as ourselves. Taking unwanted clothes to a homeless shelter or toys that kids have outgrown to a hospital, are all lovely gestures and always gratefully received.
When writing this, I also decided to look at those single people who enjoy being single at Christmas and in many ways take advantage of the fact that they are blissfully happy to be so. So to all my Single Male and Female friends out there, thanks for your help in compiling this list.
Here are some top reasons for being single at this time of year:
- No expensive present to worry about and spend your money on
- You get to have more money in your purse/wallet in the New Year
- No need to worry about in/out laws and buying the wrong presents for them
- Choose who you want to see and when you want to see them
- You can flirt with anyone you like and not feel guilty, and if you want to take it further there is no one you need to answer to in the morning, except yourself!
- You can buy drinks and have drinks bought for you during the festive season without a lifetime of commitment
- You can spend what you want on yourself and splash out on you and not explain the credit card bill to anyone else
- You don’t have to worry about embarrassing anyone with your bad behaviour, as friends usually forgive you, or don’t remember as they were just as drunk, but a partner may well split up with you or give you a very hard time.
- More relationships end because of festive behaviour, than at any other time of the year. There are more singles going into the New Year, but if you are single already you don’t have to worry about this!
- Not worrying about which family you will be with on Christmas Day and upsetting one set of family members
- Getting up when you want
- Wearing what you want
- Not arguing over which tree to choose and how to decorate it and when to put it up
- Having the remote control all to yourself and watching what you choose to watch
- You can eat what you want and drink what you want
- Go to sleep in the middle of the day and not worry about offending anyone
- Take off and travel anywhere in the world, your passport and bank account will allow you to go to
- Keep the bottle of Baileys to yourself……
Well, there is no reason not to enjoy the Christmas season now, and I am sure some of you reading this who are in a relationship will be a little bit jealous of all the freedom our single friends will be enjoying. However, if you want to change your “single status” this is also the best time of year to flirt outrageously, and get it together with that someone that you may have had your eye on over the year. Christmas is not only the time that most people split up but also a time for new relationships to get started.
Get yourself ready for New Year’s Eve as this is a wonderful time to party so make sure you choose the right friends and venue to go to. Make the right New Year’s resolutions to get you into the right frame of mind to find true love and if you need a helping hand book yourself on one of the Love Match Weekends wonderful weekends, where you can learn more about yourself and what you need to do to find the right love match. After all we attract what we give off and if you need to break some old patterns and create new positive ones, Love Match Weekends are designed specifically for this. Happy Christmas and a Very Happy New Year!”
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