Mediator John Stebbing interviewed by Vivienne Smith
John Stebbing of Stephen Rimmer LLP talks about “Divorcing with Style” using mediation, in this podcast interview with Single Mums’ Survival Guide author and transformational coach Vivienne Smith:
Divorce Mediator John Stebbing of Stephen Rimmer LLP, explains why using divorce Mediation instead of the Courts is a wise choice, and illustrates this with a moving tale of a divorcing couple where the father is being denied access to his 3 children. The children had not been able to see their father for 3 years, but through using mediation techniques even at the late stage of the case being handled by the courts, a clever resolution was found.
The edicts from the court were in practice unrealistic, asking a father to write letters to his small children as his only way of contact with them – yet the poor father had no way of knowing what to write because he had no knowledge of the daily lives of his children. This whole process was taking a very long time with long gaps between court dates, which was leaving his children feeling that he didn’t care about them as he was struggling to know what to write to them.
John used his mediation skills to help the couple to communicate, and by the father learning more about his own children’s lives from talking – with the aid of Mediation – with the mother, he was then able to have something meaningful to write in the letters to his children, and the route to greater access was therefore made more likely.
Even though the mother of the family made using Mediation untenable during the earlier divorce process, by being able to use his skills with a family who are in an ongoing court battle, John rightly argues that Mediation is always going to be better for families than the court processes, even if it is used late in the process.
Find out more about John and how mediation can make a divorce less acrimonious: