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Securing Your Financial Future After Divorce

Securing Your Financial Future After Divorce

  In his interview with Suzy Miller of the Alternative Divorce Guide, Charlie Reading, of Chartered Financial Planning firm Efficient Portfolio, talks about securing your financial future after divorce, and how to prepare for and deal with the financial impact of divorce.   The financial impact of divorce can be very demanding, especially as it comes at a time when the emotional stress is already high. Taking the time to plan financially helps ensure that your divorce runs as...

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Child First Campaign to prevent abusive ex-partners cross examining their victims in court

Child First Campaign to prevent abusive ex-partners cross examining their victims in court

  Fantastic news – and proof that sanity does eventually (begin to) prevail in the world of Divorce and Families:  As a result of the Child First Campaign bringing the issue of survivors of domestic abuse being cross examined by their abusers in the family courts and the subsequent Guardian investigation into the issue, the Government have announced an emergency review to find the quickest way to ban abusive ex-partners from cross examining their victims. Women’s Aid say...

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Brynne Edelsten’s ‘brutal’ divorce a lifestyle choice over divorce mediation?

Brynne Edelsten’s ‘brutal’ divorce a lifestyle choice over divorce mediation?

  US-Born Brynne Edelsten described her divorce as “nasty and brutal”, leading her to declare she “would never be friends” with the former Sydney Swans owner as she battled to finalise her financial settlement.  But conflict creates stress – both financial and emotional – which is why divorce mediation could have made Brynne’s experience of divorce very different..     Samantha Jago, Divorce Mediator and Solicitor at RHW Solicitors, believes that the...

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Brexit Divorce goes on and on – just like a real divorce! by Victoria Sharman

Brexit Divorce goes on and on – just like a real divorce! by Victoria Sharman

In family life, separation and divorce is traumatic and distressing. It has a negative impact on the overall health and wellbeing of those involved. Although the EU is not a ‘family’ unit, the UK’s vote to exit reflects and parallels the negative fall-out and effects of high-conflict ‘family’ separations on the individuals involved. As a divorce counsellor, Brexit fuelled my therapeutic curiosity. Personally, it brought up issues of loss of relationships and familiar connections. I became...

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When Your Confidence and Until Death Do Us Part are Dancing to a Different Beat – by Dee Burrowes

When Your Confidence and Until Death Do Us Part are Dancing to a Different Beat – by Dee Burrowes

  There’s something magical about family holidays like Christmas and Easter that encourage people to bring joy to others. It’s one of my absolute favourite times of the year where my family and extended family traditionally come together to give thanks. But has the reality of Christmas or Easter without the ‘perfect family’ hit home for you this year – or for someone you know and love?  Is there a husband and wife who are dancing to different tunes – out of...

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Wallowing in Misery, or Wading Through to the Other Side? By Vivienne Smith

Wallowing in Misery, or Wading Through to the Other Side?  By Vivienne Smith

  There are so many ways to cope with the loss of a relationship, but some of them will just leave you feeling worse.   In this interview with Transformation Coach and author of “The Single Mum’s Survival Guide“, Vivienne Smith shares a few examples or how we deal with relationship breakdown, and what better choices we can make:     Denial   You assure everyone you are fine but you realise that you are drinking too much, eating too much or laughing...

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Stressed dads – fatherhood and divorce

Stressed dads – fatherhood and divorce

  Susan Cowe Miller reassures new dads that there is a simple way to deal with the inevitable stress of fatherhood using Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping).   This technique would be particularly useful for dads who don’t live with their children, and where the contact is squashed into a limited amount of time – which can make the parenting experience even more stressful.     Are you a father finding parenthood difficult?   Are you new to...

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Divorce Coaching is not the same as Counselling

Divorce Coaching is not the same as Counselling

  Zina Arinze of Believe and Live Again shares her views on how divorce coaching can differ from traditional counselling: “One of the things that people need to understand is that there is a difference between being a coach, being a mentor, and being a therapist or a councillor.  Now a councillor will help you to uncover what’s happened in the past.  You might have some hidden issues from your childhood. that have really formed you, and developed you, and made you who you are...

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What happens to the children during divorce?

What happens to the children during divorce?

  “I think the most important thing for couples to realise is that the impact that they are going to have on their children during divorce is enormous.”   “All the research now shows that children survive divorce and adjust well if the parents act civilly and behave as friends. So the biggest mistake a lot of parents make, is that they get angry, rush off to the lawyers, rush off to court, and start a war. I’ve had children come into my office and draw me...

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EFT Helplessness Part 2: Feeling Stronger

EFT Helplessness Part 2: Feeling Stronger

  Once the ghastly emotional trauma of a marriage ending and the divorce proceedings being started, there may be an opportunity for some dust to settle. Realisations take place and there is a change of perception from the confidence or acceptance of a marriage to the raw awareness of failure or abandonment. Strong feelings of sadness, rage or injustice often dictate during this difficult transition time. However decisions need to be made and life does go on. This blog and video is for...

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Divorce First Aid for Employees interview with Suzy Miller

Divorce First Aid for Employees interview with Suzy Miller

Alternative Divorce Guide Suzy Miller talks about Divorce First Aid for Employees in this podcast interview with Single Mums’ Survival Guide author and transformational coach Vivienne Smith:     “Family breakup and divorce has significant health consequences both physically and emotionally, and therefore it is vital that co-workers and managers have a basic understanding on how to deliver “First Aid” in the form of guidance, access to resources, and a non-judgemental...

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Your New Life After Divorce by Joy Fahey

Your New Life After Divorce by Joy Fahey

  Coach Joy Fahey of New Beginnings explains in this short video and accompanying article, how coaching helps people deal with the changes brought through divorce and family breakup. “When you realise that it is the end of your relationship it can tend to leave you feeling desperate and fearful. This is quite normal and having a coach helps you cope with these emotional feelings and supports you through the process of the breakup. Coaching will help you re align yourself to the new...

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“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.”

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.”

You are now separated.  Your ex is in a new relationship. You know that your kids will go and spend some time at weekends with this new woman. What is the best way to deal with that situation? Please read too if you are the ‘new woman’ as the same applies. Become the new woman’s worst enemy? Ignore that woman, even though you know that your kids will spend a significant amount of time with her?   Why? Why would you do that?   Well it’s not that simple. No, wait. Let’s put it this...

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A Walk on the Weird Side

A Walk on the Weird Side

Keeping it friendly through Divorce – even when it Hurts   It was whilst he cried on my shoulder for the end of the short affair that had split open our ten year relationship, that I knew my life was taking a new course. He wasn’t crying for the revelation of a few weeks before that he no longer wanted to be with me, and that the house we lived in would have to be sold for debts he had not told me about until now.  He wasn’t crying for my new enforced status as a single mother to...

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Why is counselling when divorcing a wise move?

Why is counselling when divorcing a wise move?

  Why it makes sense to get psychological support earlier rather than later when navigating divorce or family separation: Many clients come to counselling in crisis but realise it would have been life enhancing to invest in their wellbeing earlier.  We often carry the belief that it is disloyal to our family members to discuss our lives with a counsellor when in reality the reverse is true.  What we really need is to be able to express ourselves openly and feel completely un-judged...

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Is divorce your only option?

Is divorce your only option?

  Considering divorce? Think again!   My ex-husband and I separated in 2011 after 18 years together and got divorced in 2014. I don’t necessarily want to go into too much details but I’d like you to have an idea of what we have been through and the reason I do that is that I’d like you to really consider all your options before making your mind up. Most options are often considered – counselling, trying to get your problems solved etc. However there is one option I was not...

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The Single Mum’s Survival Guide

The Single Mum’s Survival Guide

  Alternative Divorce Guide Suzy Miller wanted to know more about Vivienne Smith‘s new book “The Single Mum’s Survival Guide – How to Pick Up the Pieces and Build a Happy New Life” – so she asked Vivienne to tell her about how – and why – she came to write this book:     “They do say that everyone has a book in them – for me, this was certainly true although it has taken thirteen years before I was ready to share it with the world! The event that...

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When anger or fear eats away at confidence – and how EFT can help

When anger or fear eats away at confidence – and how EFT can help

  In this interview with EFT expert Susan Cowe Miller, she explains to Alternative Divorce Guide Suzy Miller, how anger can be addressed during the divorce journey, and the video below demonstrates how you can use EFT tapping to reduce or eliminate feelings of anger:     Anger over divorce may be easier to shift than you might think….   “Erosion in confidence within a failing relationship is a main reason why clients seek the help of EFT Tapping. Someone in the...

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Working with couples through divorce: Psychotherapist Caron Barruw

Working with couples through divorce: Psychotherapist Caron Barruw

  Psychotherapist Caron Barruw talks in this video interview with Alternative Divorce Guide Suzy Miller, about how her practice has developed a speciality for working with couples who are navigating divorce, with an emphasis on them breaking up amicably.       A reputation for divorce   I started getting a reputation for being quite good at working with couples, and couples come to me for all different reasons and at all different phases of their marriage.  I was able...

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Susan Cowe Miller on dealing with divorce stress during Christmas

Susan Cowe Miller on dealing with divorce stress during Christmas

  How do I survive The Festive Season?   Tips to enter 2014 with increased calm and confidence How easy is it to give the time and effort necessary to release anxiety and stress during the busy and emotionally charged Festive Season? Unrealistic expectations during the Festive Season only compound the emotional roller coaster at this time of year. How on earth can you find joy, release anxiety or survive Christmas – when strong emotions are battling against each other? In this...

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Forgiveness and Divorce

Forgiveness and Divorce

    How do we forgive when we have suffered so much before and during the divorce process, and why is it so important that we do? In this video interview with Transformation Coach Vivienne Smith, Alternative Divorce Guide Suzy Miller gets some answers to those questions:   “Forgiveness – this is so easy for an objective observer to recommend – and so very hard to do if you are the one still gripped by the bitterness, anger, hurt and resentment that separation and divorce so...

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Divorce in the Workplace: Psychotherapist Caron Barruw

Divorce in the Workplace: Psychotherapist Caron Barruw

Psychotherapist Caron Barruw has a wealth of experience in supporting employees of corporations who are dealing with critical life challenges such as divorce and family breakup.  In this short video I interviewed her so that her divorce advice and information on how to divorce amicably, could be readily accessible to people experiencing family breakup in the workplace – whether it is their own, or they are suffering the consequences of working with others who are dealing with divorce....

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Should marriage be a social seat-belt enforced by the State?

  Perhaps it was just my imagination, but I thought I could feel a slight frisson of unease when I introduced myself at the Marriage Foundation conference in London 2013 as:  “I’m Suzy Miller, of Divorce in a Box“. I was not one of the speakers – just asking a question.  I’d raised some laughter when first telling friends that I was off to the Marriage Foundation’s first national conference “Modern Marriage: Myths, Realities and Prospects”,...

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How To Keep Yourself Affair Proof

How To Keep Yourself Affair Proof

  Did you know that 17% of marriages end because of affairs? Did your marriage end because of an affair? The truth is that nobody will remain sexually faithful, unless it fits in with their values hierarchy. No such thing as being faithful to a person. You will find – or have found by now that your ex is more trustworthy when it comes to living their highest values and least trustworthy when they live something low on their values. Experience of betrayal happens all the time. Nobody is...

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Relationships never die – they just change form

Relationships never die – they just change form

  Are you feeling that you’ve tried everything and nothing seems to be working? Do you think the relationship needs to be let go of and it’s time to move on? Are you completely confused, in emotional pain and with no idea how to make things better?   MYTH NUMBER ONE:  Nothing can save this relationship now Rubbish.  A relationship – especially when you have children – is more than a marriage or the partnership that contains it.  Even if the form of that...

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Infidelity? It’s none of my business

Infidelity? It’s none of my business

    The shock of the breakup was so sudden, so extreme, that normal behaviour would have seemed inappropriate     The events that lead up to it should have left clues, but they didn’t register: The bank letters addressed in his name that I didn’t open because I’d learned that it was, apparently, none of my business how he kept missing the payments on the credit cards. The time he spent at the local pub which was natural for a hard working man, to need...

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Suzy’s Story

Suzy’s Story

  A Strange Gift: Unplanned Solo Parenting   It’s a January morning in 2003 and I can’t bring myself to take the kids to school. What will I say when someone asks me “How are you?” The answer, you see, is just not the stuff of polite conversation.   “W E L L… My partner of ten years has just dumped me. “I was supposed to live with him into old age. I had no idea that he wasn’t happy. “I loved the bastard. “But that’s only the half of it – he’s...

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7 stages of relationship breakdown recovery

7 stages of relationship breakdown recovery

  How to deal with the 7 stages of relationship breakdown recovery   Breakdown   I remember standing outside my house knowing it was to be sold and with no idea whether I would see a penny of it, three young kids, no career, and a fortieth birthday looming. I felt like such a fool, and really guilty for having got my kids into this position, even though I really hadn’t seen it coming. Whether it creeps up on you, or hits you like a sledgehammer, the breakdown of a...

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